Quality of Life Improvement RESPONSIBILITY
Who is responsible for improving
the Quality of Life? Of our Life?
RESPONSIBILITY is the ability
to respond 'properly' to the challenges of life. Properly with respect to our
true nature as a human being, that is taking charge of our own destiny.
1. As I see it, we have
to learn to accept responsibility for our own lives
2. We also have to learn to
accept responsibility for our 'dependents', taken in the broadest sense
of those who are dependent on our action:
- Here and Now and Wherever
we go to live, work or play
- Our material, physical,
emotional, mental and spiritual health
- Our growth, improvement,
development, learning, education, experience
- Our future, especially
when we are aged
3. We have a task in educating
our 'dependents' in learning to behave responsibly.
- Our spouse
- Our children and other
- Our employees
- Our co-workers, class
- Our superiors, parents,
bosses, teachers, instructors, counselors
- Anyone who could be subject
to words or actions
4. We are responsible for all
our relationships. Regardless what our relationship is and with whom it
is, we are responsible for our part of it. A relationship is two-party deal. Don't
take it for granted, just because there are no problems. A relationship needs:
- Our children must
learn to bear responsibility right from day one. They should learn to take
care of themselves or parts thereof as soon as they are capable to do so.
e.g. My son was just able to walk when he was given the task of bringing his
plate to the kitchen after his meal. As he grew older, he got more tasks.
- Our spouse must
learn to take care of his/herself. Too many are devastated when becoming widowed
- In general, we should
not make ourselves indispensable, because we aren't. Our life
could be taken away from us at any instant. It is only fair to leave things
manageable, by those remaining.
Your contribution to the relationship.
Recognizing the other party's contribution.
- Mutual Respect
No true relationship can exist without mutual respect. If it is not there,
there should be a constant effort to create it, so the relationship can be
fostered. Parents often forget to give their children the respect they deserve.
Children are no slaves, not are they stupid. They are only young, inexperienced
and uneducated. That is where they need our help and respect, because
they are willing to learn, if we let them. Are employees any
different? How about prisoners?
Symbiosis requires the recognition and the satisfaction of the needs of both
It's not what you get but what you give that makes the relationship.
The most critical part of the relationship. Unless you communicate at all
levels, there can be no relationship. We often take things for granted, because
we think the other party is like us and we don't hear anything to indicate
- Live and let live.
We all have different needs and ideas, and what constitutes our Quality of
Life. Don't dictate to others your way of life. Let them free to choose how
they want to live their own. You may inform them of the consequences of their
lifestyle, but they should be free to choose - as long as they don't
interfere with other's. Remember, bullying leads to frustration, leads resentment,
leads to violence. Generosity leads to tolerance, leads to peace, leads to
mutual respect, leads to co-operation.
5. Finally, we have a political
Taking responsibility for
our world is essential to improving our Quality of Life.
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